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When the Self Goes Quiet

Everyone who has been in a group that suddenly worked knows this. That is the strongest evidence available, and it is worth being honest that it is nearly all of it.


Experience · Groups  ·  ~6 min read

Simunye.isiZulu: “we are one” — also a famous 1990s South African broadcasting slogan

§ 01A Slogan and an Experience

The word, first

Simunye means “we are one.” It is also, and this is worth knowing, one of the best-known advertising slogans in modern South African history — the national broadcaster used it through the nineties as an expression of the post-apartheid national project.

So the word arrives here carrying two things: an ordinary phrase, and a piece of state-adjacent branding from a particular political moment. Presenting it as ancient communal wisdom would be a small dishonesty of the kind this series keeps finding.

The experience it is being used to name, though, is real and most people have had it: the moment when a group stops being several people coordinating and becomes one thing moving, and your own separateness goes quiet.

§ 02Being Honest About the Evidence

Which is thinner than any other claim in this ring

I want to handle this differently from the other essays, because the research here does not support much.

Group flow is a descriptive construct built largely from interviews with people about their best collective experiences.2 It describes something recognizable. It has no real predictive apparatus and it inherits all the problems of the individual flow literature, which is itself softer than its popularity suggests.

Collective effervescence is Durkheim, from 1912 — a sociological concept rather than an empirical finding.4 Modern work has surveyed people at gatherings and found associations with social bonding, which is suggestive and not much more.6

The sturdiest thing in the area is synchrony: moving in time with other people is associated with increased cooperation and liking in experimental settings.5 Those studies are real, mostly small, and about the effects of synchrony rather than about any dissolution of the self.

So the honest position: the experience is widely reported and clearly recognizable, the psychology describing it is thin, and the claim that the boundary of the self actually dissolves is a phenomenological report rather than a measurement. I am including this essay because the experience is worth naming, not because the evidence carries it.

§ 03It Cannot Be Produced on Demand

And what follows from that

The recurring pattern across several traditions in this library is that the valuable states are exactly the ones that resist being summoned, and this is another.

Trying to make a group merge does not work and tends to produce the opposite — a self-conscious group monitoring whether it is merging, which is precisely the condition that prevents it.

What can be done is preparation: coordination practised until it is not effortful, a shared thing to attend to, enough familiarity that nobody is managing an impression, and the absence of anyone performing.

And then the discipline of not grabbing at it when it arrives, which is the part everybody fails.

Trying to produce it
  • Attention goes to whether it is happening
  • The monitoring is itself the separate self, doing its work
  • Naming it aloud while it is happening ends it
  • The result is a group being self-conscious together
Preparing for it
  • Coordination practised until it costs nothing
  • Attention on the shared thing, not on the state
  • Familiarity enough that nobody is performing
  • And then leaving it alone, which is the hard part

A state everybody recognizes and nobody can summon.

§ 04Doing It

Conditions, and then silence

Nothing here produces the state. All of it makes it more available.

01
Practise the coordination until it is cheap the precondition
Merging requires that the mechanics cost nothing. A group still thinking about how to do the thing is not going to stop being several people.
02
Give the group one thing to attend to external, shared
Attention on a common object rather than on each other or on the state. This is the single most useful condition.
03
Remove whoever is performing including yourself
One person managing an impression is enough to hold a group apart. Usually everyone knows who.
04
Do not name it while it is happening the discipline
Saying “this is amazing right now” reliably ends it. Everyone learns this once.
05
Let it be rare it is not a target
A group chasing this experience gets less of it and enjoys the rest of its time less.

§ 05Sources

Ubuntu is a living idea belonging to living peoples, not a closed corpus, and the terms used here come from several distinct languages — Nguni (isiZulu, isiXhosa), Sotho-Tswana and others. Where a word is an ordinary word in its language rather than a technical term, the essay says so; where a phrase’s provenance is uncertain or its popular gloss is a later Western elaboration, the essay says that too. African scholarship on ubuntu is cited in preference to Western commentary wherever it bears on the point. Links are given where a stable public page exists.

  1. Simunye — “we are one” in the Nguni languages, and the Ubuntu experience of lived unity and merged collective being.
  2. Sawyer, Keith — Group Genius (2007) and work on group flow. The merged, self-dissolving state of coordinated collective action.
  3. Csikszentmihalyi, Mihaly — Flow (1990). The quieting of the self and merging with the activity.
  4. Durkheim, Émile — collective effervescence, The Elementary Forms of Religious Life (1912). The elevated unity of synchronized collective experience.
  5. Wiltermuth, S. & Heath, C. — synchrony and cooperation, Psychological Science 20 (2009). Moving in time together and the blurring of self and other.
  6. Páez, D. et al. — collective gatherings and effervescence, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2015). The merged joy that belongs to the group.
  7. Newen, A., De Bruin, L. & Gallagher, S. (eds.) — The Oxford Handbook of 4E Cognition (2018). The chapters on joint action and the sense of self are the background for this essay’s claim, which is phenomenological rather than measured.
  8. Brown, Daniel James — The Boys in the Boat (2013). A well-known account of the felt oneness of a group moving as one.
§   T H E   T A K E A W A Y

The experience is real and widely recognized, the word is also a 1990s broadcasting slogan, and the psychology describing it is the thinnest in this series — descriptive constructs, a century-old sociological concept, and some small synchrony studies.

It cannot be produced, only prepared for. And naming it while it is happening reliably ends it.

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